Posts Tagged ‘Joy’

Saved By the Books

Monday, August 23rd, 2010

I claimed a bit of joy last week.  The past two weeks have been crazy.  In addition to our normal family scurrying, there was something going on every night – a meeting, or an appointment, or a lesson.  All I wanted to do was come home and have a quiet meal with Willis and the kids.  Maybe throw in a load of laundry.  But instead, I was grabbing a burger in the car on my way from one place to the next – again.  It was two straight weeks of go, go, go and I was worn out.

Towards the end of this hectic time, I was surprised to find an unclaimed hour in my day.  It would take me ½ hour to get to my meeting, but I didn’t need to be there for 90 minutes.  I drove towards my destination trying to remember what errands needed to be run and thinking about how I could squeeze some productivity out of this extra time.

Then I saw it.  Coming up on the right was a Barnes & Noble.  “Hey!  I can do something fun with this time!  Why didn’t I think of that?”  And that’s just what I did.  I spent a whole hour in a bookstore.  By myself!

I browsed through the books about architecture and design.  I scanned fiction that I haven’t read yet.  I lingered in the bargain books.  I love books and I love solitude.  I was in heaven.

I may have looked like a completely normal person to other shoppers, but in my head, I was screaming, “Whee!  I’m free!”  I looked at the kids in the children’s section.  “Do any of them need to pee?  I don’t care!  Wahoo!”  Perhaps I need to get out more.

Nonetheless, it was just the boost I needed.  We’re through the busy time on this month’s calendar, so I can get back to my time with Willis, Pinky & G.  I’m grateful for that and I’m extremely grateful for that gift of a free hour.

Just For Fun

Friday, August 13th, 2010

When is the last time you did something silly for no other purpose than fun?  If you’re like me, up to your eyeballs in diapers and spreadsheets, you can’t remember the last time.  Adulthood can sometimes suck, so let’s reclaim a bit of childhood and try something frivolous today.  Here are some suggestions:

  • Build something out of Legos
  • Log roll down a grassy hill
  • Play with Silly Putty
  • Blow bubbles through a straw
  • Make a silly face at someone who isn’t expecting it
  • Twirl around and make yourself dizzy
  • Make up a song and sing it loudly on the spot
  • Dress up in a crazy costume – not for Halloween

Think about something silly you used to love as a kid.  Now go do it.  Do you smile just thinking about it?  Please let me know what your silly thing is and how it makes you feel.

Enjoy!

Non-Linear Joy

Wednesday, July 21st, 2010

I am a very structural and analytical thinker.  Perhaps that’s why demanding my joy has been a challenge for me.  My expectation is that if I do activity A, I will achieve result B.  This has proven to be a ridiculous expectation.

It would be nice if I could put a check mark on my list next to “get happy” and call it done.  But alas, that’s not how it works.  I’ll be happy when…I meet Prince Charming, when I win the lottery, when I lose 20 pounds.  Nope.  The answer is always “Now.”  I can find joy in this very moment, or not.

Joy is available to us at all times, but usually in little bits to be noticed and harvested rather than in the big hunks that most of us are waiting for.  You often have to be still and present to see them, but there they are – those little bits of randomly floating happiness just waiting to be plucked.  And even when you develop the habit of recognizing and grabbing those smidgeons of joy, the energy of it ebbs and flows.  Joy needs nurturing and maintenance.  The work of being joyful gets easier with practice and it’s absolutely worth the effort, but that work is never done.  Fortunately, joy is cumulative.  The more bits you claim, the happier you are!

Just like laundry and dishes, you have to make joy anew every day.  Ha!  What a dismal analogy for something so wonderful!

So take a moment to look around you throughout the day today.  The first sip of coffee, a soft pillow, saying good morning to your family, hitting that green traffic light, warm sunshine, comfy shoes, your favorite song…How many little pieces of happiness can you find that you usually overlook?  By focusing on them and giving them each gratitude, even for just a moment – How do you feel?

Pinky Speaks!

Wednesday, March 10th, 2010


The baby is 8 months old now.  She’s fairly opinionated and maker her wishes known quite clearly.  However, she is just beginning to be verbal.  She knows that singing is “lalala”.  When Willis walks into the room, she lights up and proclaims, “Da!”  But the word that is the clearest is “Mama” and it’s the best thing ever.

It’s the Little Things

Tuesday, January 5th, 2010

I’ve always thought about life changes as large, sweeping initiatives, like starting a new weight loss program, or going back to college.  The reason I couldn’t make changes in my life, therefore was that I couldn’t take on such a big project.  I didn’t have the time or the money or the energy or the motivation.  I have a million quite legitimate excuses.

And sometimes, we do need big changes.  But what I’ve leaned (the hard way because that’s what I do) is that the little things can make an enormous difference in my quality of life.

For example, I started listening to my iPod on the walk between my car and my desk.  It’s only a block – hardly worth the effort.  But that four minutes of music bracketing the beginning and end of my work day lifts my spirits considerably.  Have a meeting that you’re dreading?  Try a little Marilyn Manson.  You will have no problem winning that meeting.

I have also started buying fresh flowers with my groceries.  It is an extravagance to be sure.  But the cheap ones are just as pretty as the expensive ones and four bucks worth of chrysanthemums make it almost pleasant to get up early on a cold and gloomy day.

So go ahead and submit your application to grad school.  But also, put a silly photo on your desk.  Take a deep cleansing breath.  Sing loudly in the car.  Belly dance in the shower.  The smallest kindness, a quick reminder of a happy memory, a tiny bite of forbidden deliciousness.  Before you know it, all of these small things add up to a beautiful life.

Raindrops on Roses

Wednesday, December 30th, 2009

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“I simply remember my favorite things and then I don’t feel so bad!”  OK, so now you have The Sound of Music stuck in your head.  Sorry about that.

For no particular reason, I’ve been pondering the small, seemingly insignificant things that brighten my day.  Things like mocha lattes and colored sharpie markers.  I enjoy things that sparkle and secretly watching Hoarders on A&E.  I smile about how G mispronounces his r’s.  I pause to enjoy the feeling of my green fuzzy bathrobe.  I find joy in talking to my sister on the phone when I should be working.  I like the satisfaction of making an orderly list on a yellow legal pad.  I like french fries and honeysuckle scented lotion.  A George Clooney movie.  The sound of the wind through the trees.

What are the little bits of joy in your day?

The Happiness Fairy

Wednesday, December 2nd, 2009

I belong to a circle of brilliant women who meet once a month to work on Living Intentionally.  I’m sure that I’ll write more about this circle – it’s had a huge impact on my life and was the impetus for starting this blog.  Anyway, I forget what specifically we were talking about, but one of my friends brought a doll that she had made.  It was really cool – she had a very curvy body and lots of long, thick hair.  She was a beautiful, voluptuous woman – an anti-Barbie.  The doll is her Happiness Fairy.  A nice reminder to focus on the joy in her life.

I’m taken with this idea.  I’ve never had dolls, but I for sure want a magical godmother who sprinkles happiness into my life!  My first instinct was to offer her a handsome sum of money for the doll, but that would be inappropriate.

So I began a search for my own happiness fairy.  A symbol of my own good fortune and a reminder to claim the joy in my life that’s always there for the taking, but most often ignored.  I’m hanging her up in Inspiration Point!

Happiness Fairy

Sleeping Babies

Friday, November 13th, 2009

I adore G & Pinky, but it is a truly joyous moment when they’re both asleep at the same time!

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