I have a friend who has an amazing gift for making those around him feel good. If he thinks something nice about you, he’s the kind of guy who will pick up the phone to tell you that he’s thinking nice things about you. He observes the admirable qualities of others – out loud.
He has inspired me. I’m trying to be much more generous with my compliments. I told a perfect stranger in the elevator yesterday, “Yay for those shoes!”
I sent an e-mail to a co-worker telling her that I think she does great work. My job is similar to hers and I told her that I hope I can do half as good a job at it as she does.
I’m trying to be more conscientious about telling Willis how handsome and talented and appreciated he is.
Turns out, it’s nearly impossible to feel crabby when you’re saying something complimentary to someone else. My attempts to give more of myself to others has given me a real boost. Giving compliments feels slightly counter-intuitive to me, but I’m determined to make it a new habit. I like it!
I propose that we all give it a try. Say something nice to five people today about themselves and see how it makes you feel. Let me know how it goes!