Archive for the ‘Italy’ Category

When Life Gives You Lemons

Tuesday, July 5th, 2011

The reason Willis goes to Italy every year is that he teaches American college students in a study abroad program.  I am lucky enough to join him for part of his time there.  His students study Italian and work on group projects.  Not only are they studying in their chosen field, but they are forced out of their comfort zones.  Ultimately, that’s the point.  It’s fascinating to watch which students embrace the new culture and welcome each new experience with curiosity and moxy and which students hide in their rooms, speak only to other Americans and count the miserable days before they can go home.

Figuratively, these kids are thrown into the deep end of life.  Some figure out how to swim.  Some sink to the bottom and refuse to try.  Some completely fall apart and expect (or demand) to be rescued.

The program is a fascinating microcosm and has helped me to look at my own behavior.  When something unpleasant or unexpected happens, how do I handle it?  Do I wallow around in self-pity?  Or do I put on my big girl panties and deal with it?  Do I act with integrity and composure?  Or do I act like a spoiled brat?

So to extent the metaphor, when life gives you lemons in the form of a plumbing problem or a toddler with pink eye or an incompetent co-worker, what do you do?  Do you whip up some meringues to make a pie?  Or do you cut it into wedges to squirt people in the eye with?

A Much Needed Rest

Tuesday, June 28th, 2011

The view from the terrace of our apartment

It’s been nearly a month since I’ve written anything – longer than I had hoped.  I’ve put the time to good use though.  First, my brother got married to a wonderful woman this month.  I am thrilled to have a new sister.  She’s been part of the family for quite a while, but now it’s official!

At the same time, Willis was working in Italy for a good chunk of the summer.  I had two weeks of wedding preparations, plus single parenting, plus preparing to join him overseas.  High class problems to be sure, but a busy and stressful time nonetheless.

However, the payoff was amazing.  I was able to spend almost two weeks in Italy before returning home with Willis.  I had the extreme good fortune to leave all of my stresses and responsibilities behind and give my mind, my body and my spirit complete rest.  No decisions.  No obligations.  Just good food,  beautiful wine, wonderful friends and beauty everywhere I looked.

I am re-energized and inspired to take my joy to the next level.  I have a long list of post topics which I can’t wait to write.

So thank you for your patience during my ‘sabbatical’ and as always, thanks for being interested in my scribblings.

Ciao!

~Meg

New Things I’m Grateful For

Monday, July 12th, 2010
  • Gelato
  • Blood orange juice
  • Drying your clothes in the sunshine
  • Sleeping with the windows open
  • Seeing scenery so beautiful that you get choked up
  • Wine at lunch
  • Seeing things in person that you’ve only seen in photos

  • Getting back in touch with friends and family after being without WiFi for a week
  • Coming home to these goofballs after a long journey

Simplicity

Friday, July 9th, 2010

“Simplify” has become something of a buzz word in the United States.  In my weeks in Italy, I have learned what that really means.  In the small mountain town where I am, the people eat less but enjoy more.  The food is simpler, fresher, cleaner and tastes incredible.  Meals are not eaten on the go.  They are experienced slowly.  There is junk food here but you have to seek it out.  It’s not ubiquitous.

Italians walk more and have less.  There is simply less stuff here.  Less time indoors and more time with friends.  More time to relax.  More time with your family and away from work.

As I head back to my home and my job and my chaotic schedule and my house full of stuff, I intend to spend some time contemplating how to really simplify.  How can I bring “dolce vita” home with me now that I’ve truly seen it in action?

Whole Foods

Sense of Wonder

Wednesday, July 7th, 2010

One of my sister’s many wonderful qualities is her authentic sense of wonder about the world.  She signs up for cake decorating classes and joins hockey teams and travels the world by herself.  She loves to learn new things.  I’ve always admired how un-jaded she is.  While being brilliantly smart and accomplished, she has a very genuine curiosity about the world.  Child-like in the best possible sense.

Since I’ve been in Europe this month and have temporarily shunned all of my real-life responsibilities, I think I may know how show feels.  She just comes to it more easily.  Each day here, I discover something new and amazing.  I can’t believe my good fortune to be drinking in this experience.

Someone's front door in Assisi. Don't you want to know what's in there?

In Nature

Monday, July 5th, 2010

I love getting outdoors, out of the city and into the woods.  It always calms me.  The air is clean and the wind through the trees is my favorite sound.

So while in Italy, I made a point to walk and clear my head.  Amazing.

What's better than this?

Out of the Zone

Wednesday, June 30th, 2010

If this is what letting go looks like, I suppose I will have to learn to live with it.

Willis and I have been in Italy for several days now.  After sight seeing in Rome, we’re settled into an apartment in a small town in the Apennine mountains.  Willis is off to work and I’m on my own for most of the day which is exactly what I wanted – a little time to rest and regenerate.

The only issue is that I speak only enough Italian to order food and find a bathroom.  Not being capable and self-sufficient is quite a ways outside of my comfort zone.  I can’t ask a question in a shop or get directions.  The people here are extremely patient and generous so it works out in the end, but still, I must be a pain in their collective Italian asses and it makes me really uncomfortable.

So two thoughts:

  1. I am committed to an investment in Rosetta Stone so that I will not be this helpless when I return to this beautiful country.
  2. This is probably good for me.  As someone who is intentionally learning to forfeit control, perhaps having to depend on the kindness of strangers is helping me to flex my surrender muscles.  I trust that the universe (and some very friendly shopkeepers) will provide me with what I need.

Have you stepped out of your comfort zone recently?  How did it go?

A Challenge

Monday, June 28th, 2010

While in Rome, we visited St. Peter’s Basilica at the Vatican.  It is breath-takingly beautiful.  We were there with college students who wanted to climb the steps all the way to the top of the dome of the church.  My first reaction was, “You all have fun with that.  I don’t believe I’ll be hauling my ass up 300+ stairs today.” (That’s after you take the elevator to the bottom of the dome.  The steps from the ground floor are closer to 550.)  I was certain my answer was no.  Red faced and gasping for air – not attractive.

But after I thought about it for a minute, I changed my mind.  Deepak Chopra says, “Certainty is a cruel, uncreative mindset and kills what is possible.”  I flew all the way to Rome and I have the opportunity to view the city from the highest point.  Something I have not experienced before certainly.

So in we went.  The elevator ride was crowded and hot, but let us out to see the most incredible view down into the church (although difficult to photograph through the grate).

Then, the stairs.  They were stuffy and very narrow.  So narrow that there were only a few places where you could stop and let people pass you.  For the most part, we were a single file line – you just had to keep going.   After the first 150 or so, the stairs got narrower and steeper.  By the first time I thought, “Can’t.  Breathe. <gasp> Might.  Die. <gasp>” I was high enough that the ceiling began to curve inward.  So now we’re climbing while leaning towards the center and turning sideways to squeeze through.  By the time I thought, “Holy Roman Shit, there’s no possible way to get a rescue crew up here. <gasp>” the stairs changed from a wide circle around the outside of the cupola to a steep iron spiral right up the middle.  Now I was determined (not that I had a choice any more really).  And just as I thought, “Jesus, Mary and Joseph! <gasp>  How many more stairs can there possibly be?!” the stairwell flooded with fresh air and natural light.  I was at the top.

And thank God or the Pope or somebody that I didn’t pass this up.